Cabbages and kings

Mari Astrup
Boy, did we talk.  We talked and talked until you would have thought there was nothing else on earth to talk about, and then we talked some more.  We talked from when the plane landed to when the sun was about to rise, and the stories were still not finished.  There was more to say but we had to get back to life.  10+ years is a long period of time to catch up on.  People get married, get divorced, get haircuts, get tattoos, get nose piercings, get real jobs, get fake ones, get busy, and get bored.

So much changes, yet so much stays the same.  We practically all look the same as we did 10+ years ago.  We all have interests that more or less align themselves to where we were 10+ years ago.  Which is a comfort and not a surprise.  The conversation veered from "so what do you do now?" to stories about relationships - failed and successful - to sex, to cheese, to books, to tv shows, to games, to music and art.  Which is also not really so different from the conversations we had 10+ years ago, except for the "so what do you do now" part.  And honestly, that part of the conversation was 30 minutes max.  Isn't it funny that when you are with those who have known you the longest, the part of your life that takes up the most of the time is the thing that you talk about the very least?  What's a surprise to me is that it isn't really a surprise to me.

These conversations were the ones that kept me still thinking at night, even when I could barely keep my eyes open.  That had and have my wheels turning and reexamining everything that I do, that I have done, and trying to figure out if it's honest and true to me.  My highlight of last week: real talk with real friends.

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  1. sounds like a fabulous meeting. those are the best conversations to be had. xo

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  2. it gave me chills to read this. i could just feel the energy that those conversations hold and emit. they are dear. so very important and wonderful. xo

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  3. I love having a good talk even though I'm an introvert
    as I usually waits for other people to start the convo.
    I love talking about everything with friends as well c:
    Xx

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  4. Sigh. So jealous. I miss my old friends for exactly the reasons you described: talking all night, laughing, realizing you're all still relatively the same and basking in the joy and comfort that brings. Sounds like you had a good weekend, R. xo

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  5. Awesomeness, right? I just met up with uni friends too, and there's nothing like talking about the good ole days:)

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  6. Sounds like amazing friendships that have stood the test of time.

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  7. That was my highlight, too. My lifetime bestie and I finally got to catch up after about six months of not chatting (she's in Korea and the time difference + my mostly-weekends job makes it hard for us to chat sometimes). We Skyped for two and a half hours Saturday night, which doesn't come close to some of our longer sessions, and it was awesome. Hardly a pause in the conversation and, of course, afterwards I was still thinking of more things I wanted to tell her/talk to her about!

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  8. That sounds like a great time! Hopefully it won't be another 10 years before you see them again.

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  9. those are the conversations i miss so dearly. for me, it's been hard to make friends but the few really close ones i have are like my sisters. when we do get to see each other it's like we were never apart. that we are picking up conversation we had from the last time we were all together :)

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  10. You are truly blessed to have such amazing friends who haven't changed in the last 10 years! =) That's a rarity these days and this post made me really happy :)

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  11. Sounds wonderful! Those are the best conversations and times to be had.

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  12. Sounds like such an awesome time spent with great friends. I love the type of friends who make it easy to pick right up where you left off!

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  13. I made the same experiences. It is fascinating. Glad you had such great conversations and were able to catch up!

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  14. Honestly I love these kinds of conversations

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  15. Ah the best. Seriously those conversations are the ones that stay in your memory for times to come.

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  16. I hope the turning wheels lead you to a good place.

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  17. Sounds wonderful. And oh so true. The more things change, the more they stay the same...and whatnot. Glad you had such a great time, m'dear! Here's to more satisfying times like these!

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  18. And...those "real" talks will become so much more precious as year go on...and comfortable, and comforting...

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  19. The best thing ever.

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