Q&A, part 2

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I appreciate the answers that you all provided with regards to compromising and how one should handle it.  I suppose I've been a bit fooled by literature, particularly the stories where people pine and waste away into empty shells or live lives lead by resentment and paralysis because they are unable to do or get what they want.  I read, read and blow it all out of proportion in my imagination, thinking about how desperate and frantic I would feel about being in a situation like that, scrabbling away at the corners like a rat in a cage.  Realistically, I have never been able to harbor a grudge for longer than an hour and don't think I have the stamina or determination to spend my entire life resentful.

Azra brought up a good point, that as much as I think I have a hand in all of this, I really don't have all the control.  There are things that must be left up to fate / destiny / luck, whatever you call it.  I'm also a bit nervous that thinking of myself in the short run, as Emmy mentioned, may not be the best move for me in the long run.  Perhaps this calls for some strategic, long-term selfishery.*

In either case, I think it's a combination of both - blowing it all out of proportion and overestimating the actual hand I have in all of this (this = life).  Things will happen as they happen.  I will do the right thing or I will do the wrong thing and then have to fix my mistakes.  The choices that I make are shaped by the choices of my past and will continue to shape the choices in my future.  Somethings I'm sure I never thought I'd compromise on, I probably will.  And vice versa.  Life's a mercurial witch when she's blowing you around like this but at least you can't ever accuse her of being boring.


*Hooray new word!


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  1. Okay, first of all?

    I'm totally stealing "selfishery"...oh yes I am! Bwahahah.

    I really can't top the wonderful Azra (my bloggy world has become much richer since she and I started following one another nine months ago!) so I'm just gonna be lazy and say: what she said.

    I know, I know, cop-out much?

    I will say that, whatever is happening or not happening, have faith and trust your instincts. (Okaaaaay, so apparently I'm talking in platitudes now!)

    Also? "Mercurial witch"...? LOVE.

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  2. Pats on the back for starting the word after "mercurial" with a "w".

    So you're going the fate route, instead of an algebraic formula...that has always worked out well for me. :)

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  3. My main takeaway from all of this is just that life is hard, and no one tells you that when you're a kid. That adulthood isn't as awesome and free as you think when you're 5. Good luck, girl. Things will work out the way they're supposed to.

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  4. "Life's a mercurial witch when she's blowing you around like this but at least you can't ever accuse her of being boring."...AMEN:) Very eloquently-put, Rooth:) (((hugs)))

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  5. What a thoughtful post.

    Since and old friend passed away young this subject has been on my mind...whether he could have made different decisions or if everything is fate.

    I think the magic happens when opportunity meets preparation--so being prepared and flexible are key.

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  6. The choices that I make are shaped by the choices of my past and will continue to shape the choices in my future. >> Well, that would be living your life on autopilot. You have the choice (!) to believe, whether this statement is true or not. Personally I choose to let go of the past, be in the present and build my future from here.

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  7. Hmmmm I tend to be a "big picture" type of thinker. I'm always looking at things with a "what will this look like 5 years down the road" perspective. I guess its the OCD/Planner/Teacher in me, but there are definitely times where exceptions should be made for the little things in life!

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  8. "There are things that must be left up to fate / destiny / luck, whatever you call it." Sometimes that's all we can do - Trust that there is a bigger plan, even when things seems random and pointless in this moment. Good luck, Rooth!

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