In my previous blog entry, I had mentioned that my sister was planning on baking a champagne layer cake for the New Year's Eve party that my parents were throwing. On Friday, when I asked her if she wanted to go buy the ingredients and get prepared for baking, she threw back at me, "You make things not fun! Everything turns into a task!" Which I almost retorted back immediately with a "No!" but didn't because it's actually true. I get so focused on completing the goal at hand that I laser focus on laying out the steps to getting it done. It is true that my mom called me Monica, as in Monica from
Friends due to my bossiness, the entire time I was home this holiday break. I forget that it can be fun getting things done and "teamwork doesn't always feel like work." My sister and I have opposite personalities - she is incredibly creative, artistic and the consummate procrastinator while I am more linear, organized and a planner. I owe my sister one for trying to slow me down and for providing some balance to my over-the-top personality sometimes. In 2012 I will try to be more forgiving, particularly towards myself and just focus on enjoying the journey instead of concentrating on getting to the destination.
And in case you were wondering, she did make the cake in time and it turned out beautifully and tasted delicious!
LOL @ Monica comment. There's nothing wrong with being a Monica. Especially since I'm like one ;) lol As long as there is a Rachel around to balance us out, we're good! haha
ReplyDeletethat sounds delicious!
ReplyDeletemy role in my family is the calmer or problem-solver.
That sounds like a good resolution. However, Monica is always the one who gets things done so don't change too much!
ReplyDeleteI agree, we could all be a little more forgiving of others (and ourselves) but you should embrace your inner Monica girl! Just try to find a way to get things done without being bossy.... I try to let other people think "they" came up with the idea when I'm really the one who hinted at it. That way people feel like they have more power (does that make sense?)
ReplyDeleteBut I liked Monica - though I was always the "Rachel" in the eyes of my friends. Have no clue why, but everyone thought so. :-D
ReplyDeleteI have a hardcore "Monica" among my friends and I wish I could be a little more like her! :-)
we need people like you to get things done in this world! but yes, getting things done doesn't have to mean losing fun. joy is easily killed when the focus is all on the goal. i have learnt that the process is actually everything.
ReplyDeletehappy new year!
Sounds like you two balance each other out pretty well. We need the "get things done" people just as much as we need the creative, artistic procrastinators. (I tend to be a bit of both, depending on what the task is...) I think it's great to have a little bit of Monica in you as long as you balance it out with a little bit of Rachel... and maybe a touch of Phoebe for good laughs :)
ReplyDeleteSo nice to have someone to keep you in line--so nice you have each other. Because, truly, it is a balancing act!
ReplyDeleteSo great to have someone to give you that check. I'm all Monica, all the way so I know how hard it can be to just relax. Hope you had a lovely holiday!
ReplyDeletePause. Why haven't I made a champagne layer cake yet? I've had a recipe for the longest time. I can definitely relate to your desire to be organized and maybe a bit bossy now and then -- I can be the same way at time too. It's a coping mechanism I think: when life is crazy, I feel like being organized is the only way to deal. It's not. It's just my way. But definitely learning to relax has helped me.
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